What do I crave.....easiest question to answer in the world, the thing I lack the most is 'space', 'freedom', 'escapism'!
OK, so being a mum of 3 busy boys doesn't conjure up much space for me, something I crave more often than not. On the flip side I do know if I had this in abundance, I would crave the busy family life I do have (which I enjoy most of the time!). Don't get me wrong, I LOVE my life filled with noise, demands, tantrums, attitude, excitement and love....80% of the time! The other 20% is spent trying to squeeze some 'space' within my day just for me to breathe, have quiet time and be alone! Is that terrible?? I don't think so, and most mum's would happily agree with me!
As human's, we usually want some of the greener grass! Ever heard of Billy Goat Gruff? Well, he was the same, always searching and swapping his patch for greener grass on the other side.....which inevitably never was! Our minds hold on to some fantasy and unrealistic view of a different life, but in reality it would be equally as 'pants' when the chips are down and having a bad day. This is no secret to life, as we are all aware the grass is NEVER greener! Hence, we need to be careful what we wish for! For me, wishing for some 'space' and 'freedom' in amongst my busy family life, rather than 'space' and 'freedom' in its entirety!
Finding ways to get some 'space' can be a challenge for me, and often just asking family, loved ones, friends for help is perhaps the key. Something in my life I work on regularly, asking for help is never something I find easy!
So, as I write this in a cafe, this is 'space' for me, 90 minutes to sit on my own, with my own thoughts and energy, enjoying the moment to the max. My time to people watch, read, write, breath, observe life go by.....ahhh, stillness within myself, allowing my mind to be in each and every moment as it arrives and passes by.
This is what 'space' means for me, this is what replenishes me. It may be snatching 30 minutes to go to the beach to breath in the sea air and paddle my feet in the water, sometimes just lying in the garden in my hammock, for as little as 10 minutes while the boys have gone off with daddy to kick a ball about, or they happily watching a movie.....i'm constantly trying to keep 80/20 balance, 20% each day for me to have some time to escape!
So, what do you crave, what does it look like, what does it feel like, and how often do you get it?? Search within yourself to find out what creates that balance for you, what gives you that 'ahhh' feeling. Perhaps you are on the flip side of me, and maybe have too much 'space' and not enough social connections, if so, join some clubs, find an interest where you can connect with likeminded people. Make it a priority to find what you crave and change those parts of your life for some harmony and balance.
For me, it's taking off the 'mum', 'wife' hats and putting on my 'me' hat, for a small part of my day, this is where I get headspace, get my creative juices flowing, am able to take a breather.....time to reflect, process, shift, and just 'be' in the moment. Love yourself too and find what makes you feel connected to your inner being. Love and light x
Namaste. Nikki G.